Dating with young children
If you have good rapport with your child, have regular talks with them and they respect you, then it is important that you get their approval.
And yet, with our children tracking our every move, many of us now find ourselves with the one thing we didn’t expect: a new “parent” watching as we walk out the door — wondering when (at what time and perhaps with whom) we’ll return. I don’t take it too seriously — until she wants me to meet the guy. Marrying was a big transition, since his new wife has kids and we spend holidays together.
I’ll set up something fun for you to do." The level of detail will need to be determined by the age of the children.
Problems begin when there is a change in you and your routine and nothing’s said.
Here’s a snippet of conversation between a single parent and their 17-year-old. ”“It’s a long story.”“What do you mean it’s a long story? It’s an almost standard conversation between parent and child about dating. ”Many of us — the dating divorced — find ourselves experiencing a very interesting role reversal as we head out the door on a weekend evening.
But I’ll probably be back late.”“Who are you going out with? Someone you don’t know.”“Where did you meet this friend? Such are the joys of dating when you have an older teen/young adult under the same roof, watching as you come and go, watching (or at least wondering) with whom you go out and with whom you might come back. Why do you continue to annoy me with these questions?
They are, in their own ways, watching over us, asking (at times aggressively) the very same questions we asked them, the very same questions our parents asked us many years ago. Those questions we felt obligated to ask as good, responsible parents are coming back to haunt us.